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Aug 5Liked by Sanobar Sabah

Sabahhh! I love love love this list ...everyone but most importantly this one "You forgive yourself the way you forgive your kids."

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Thank you, yaara! I added that bit after I finished writing the entire essay and it really hit me deep as well :)

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Aug 5Liked by Sanobar Sabah

This essay is all heart Sanobar! 15 Beautiful commandments on love, care and drawing boundaries.

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Thank you, Samira! I wasn't sure when I wrote it. So glad it makes sense and obviously resonates.

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Aug 6Liked by Sanobar Sabah

Beautiful!

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Thank you!

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Aug 6Liked by Sanobar Sabah

It is so strange that across so many boundaries our experiences to the workshops were so similar. Thank you for articulating what we felt Sanobar so well.

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Hai na?! And I'm so glad someone or the other says it so we know, "omg! I'm not alone feeling these crazy feelings!" Lol I truly believe there are no such thing as coincidences :) Thank you for showing up, Sanket!

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Such a heartwarming essay, Sanobar💛

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Thank you, Sanskriti. Like most times, one keeps wondering, "sahi likha hai? Samajh mein aayega logon ko ki kya kehna chahti hun?" And then the doubts subside when the comments start pouring in :)))

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This is a beautiful piece Sanobar. I have been thinking a lot about - what is the point of all this healing. And sometimes we do see the benefits - when we are not stuck in the weeds. And I think your piece helps remind of that and provides the necessary perspective.

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Funny how our essays landed together and served as timely reminders to each other :) I'm so thankful for being showered by words that heal ❤️ Thank you for your solidarity and compassion ❤️

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Sanobar! This was like a step-by-step guide to life itself. And living it for yourself, with love and joy. My most favourite point was eating fruit off the trees and sitting down on the grass - ufffff just the thought of that!! This was so wonderfully full of learning to let go and finding sukoon. So happy you decided to share it!

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Sigh! 'Sukoon' is just the right word, Alaknanda! That eating fruits off trees is a strong feature on my bucket list. Someday, InshaAllah! Thank you so much for the love :)

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Aug 12Liked by Sanobar Sabah

Just reading this list is an act of healing. I envy the way you have whittled down this Loch Ness monster and given it a resonant, lucid, this-is-how-it-is beauty. Thankyou Sanobar!

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Wow! Thank you for reading it the way you did, Swati!

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Aug 7Liked by Sanobar Sabah

Such a well written, wise piece. I really admire your writing and look forward to more such wonderful reads 🩵

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That made me smile :)) Thank you so much!

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Aug 6Liked by Sanobar Sabah

This is so robust, wholesome, rich, life-giving... And all other adjectives that also apply to Sanobar

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Ha ha ha oh Nishi! I'm so shamelessly going to lap it all up! Thank you so much, dost :)

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Jaadugar Sanobar!

Kitna sundar likha hai. Along with articulating what's happening with me, it also told me what more can happen. And that is magic.

I am keeping those visions close with me from now on. I can't appreciate you enough for this.

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Suruchi, naa poocho kitne doubtful state mein maine ye likha tha aur post krne k baad bhi sochti rahi - “Am I making sense? Should I have written it in another way?” You can’t imagine how helpful feedback like yours posted here helps overcome those doubts and, on top of that, encourages me to keep writing and sharing :) Thank you so much for your kindness <3 Here’s to us healing together and being grateful for the opportunity to witness and be inspired by each other’s journey.

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Thank you for writing something so authentic, and so pure! It has just lifted me up today! To borrow from your piece, you have written this without makeup, and we've all seen the beautiful person there is! Power to you!

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Oh that’s beautiful! I did write this with zero make-up on :) Thank you for appreciating :)

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