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Supriya Devarajan's avatar

Oh I know exactly what you mean Sanobar! This time the husband said he wouldn’t be able to come with us to Goa for our annual Christmas vacation (that I plan so sincerely every year) so I said ok, took the son and went , not entirely happily or guilt free but you know something, it was fine! My son and I had fun!

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

It is always fine, isn't it?! I'm glad we're learning to stop fussing over the non-important and trying to just be - for ourselves and our families :) Your Goa pictures are living proof of a guilt-free happy time :)

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Rafia Khader's avatar

Ah, the public toilet dilemma! Most men can never understand why it's such a problem for us women... and if we're out all day, needing to make wudu... and then when it's cold and the water if freezing... LOL. I proclaimed today that I'm going to stop complaining. That wasn't complaining was it?

I'm glad you ended up having a nice NYE. How old is your daughter btw?

I ended up going to bed at 10:30 or 11 pm. I never stay up until midnight for new year's.

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

I prefer going to bed early on NYE. So good on you, Rafia! My 12yo daughter wanted to go to the beach for the fireworks so we played along. It was laid-back and not overwhelming except for thr guilt of being compliant against our environment. I couldn't stop thinking of the birds and animals who would've been so scared.

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Alaknanda Sengupta's avatar

My favourite moment was when your daughter starts wanting not to go after all😆

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Omg! I know right?! The perfect time to test anyone's parenting skills!

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Sharmada's avatar

perfect essay tho :)

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Bas yahi kaam baaki hai - turning our misery into some form of palatable art ;)

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namrata ukani's avatar

Our home is the same. 6 people, everyone having different ideas.

And the struggles of making family decisions. Thank you for writing this out.

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Lol so glad we're not alone! Thank you 😉

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Alaknanda Sengupta's avatar

What a delightful read!😆😊🩵💙

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Thank you, Alaknanda :)

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Shazia's avatar

Love this 🔥

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Thank you for sharing the post and for reading, good friend :)

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Ayush's avatar

Lovely read! Such a relatable quandry. And Happy New Year Sanobar! Hope you have a great one :)

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