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Mukta Naik's avatar

I think children's questions are great prompts for life-changing realisations. Your essay proves it!

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Totally! I really can't say this enough - children are so much more wiser than what they're credited for.

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ulhas vairagkar's avatar

I Like the tree analogy! Thank you.

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Ikr?! I'd actually read it somewhere long time back. Clearly it stayed with me as I just blurted it out to my child impulsively. Such a hard hitting image! Thank YOU!

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farzana's avatar

‘You’re not a tree Aleena’ 🫶🏽

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

I say to her as I remind myself! I really do wonder who's the teacher here, honestly 🤔

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Khyati Parekh's avatar

How often do we tell ourselves the truth? I want to sit with this today.

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Hai na? Thank you, Khyati ♥️

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Natasha Badhwar's avatar

Amazing essay, @sanobar

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Natasha! Mera dimaagh hi ulta hai...I was complaining to you about not being able to write the 3 essays I need to. Then I went ahead and wrote this in one go lol How do ND brains and their writing work?! Ek workshop us pr chahiye, please!

As for this essay, who knows the journey better than you! Can't wait to write with you guys again in June :) Thank you so much, like always!

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Prerna's avatar

Sharing this wisdom far and wide. Also very importantly, anchoring myself to sit in discomfort and truth. Thank you for this beautiful piece.

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Uffff that sitting in discomfort is the hardest!!! How I let those words out of my mouth....still feels unbelievable. I often wonder how will my kids react when they find our stories here? This journey ain't easy! Thank you so much for showing solidarity...as you can see, I'm forever confused myself lol

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Prerna's avatar

I wonder if you’d consider the words curios(ity)and courage(ous) to describe yourself and your work. As an outsider, reader, that is what stands out for me.

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

I usually write with a heightened sense of emotion, Prerna. It takes a lot from me to then 'polish' what I write before clicking on 'post'. This is why, a loving, positive feedback from 'outsiders' like you, is always so assuring, so encouraging!

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Mesa Fama's avatar

This reminds me so much of the countless conversations I used to have with my daughter about her future and relationships.. I always did my best to tell her as much of the truth as she could handle given her age at each conversation. The older she got the more she'd see and want to know about. I can't say it did much to prepare her or prevent her from making mistakes. Only she would know that.

As moms I think we do the best we can and give them the truth while allowing them to decide for themselves. 🖤

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Oh Mesa! I'm so glad you shared. I think nothing we do can prevent them from making their own mistakes. But just being honest about our own journey can may be, help them feel less intimidated about their own? That and the fact that they know they can always come to us no matter what ♥️

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